How to come out of the blame game

I heard this story and it intrigued me.

Once there was a couple staying in a neighbourhood in the country side.

Every day morning the wife used to look outside from their dining room window where the next door lady would hang the washed clothes on the ropes. By seeing her she would comment “This lady does not even know how to clean the clothes. Look at the ones, especially white, how dirty they are!”

The husband used to listen to her, look outside through the window and then continue to keep eating.

This happened for few days continuously until one day when they were sitting for the breakfast as usual, the wife exclaimed “Look she learnt how to wash properly! Finally after all these days!”

The husband responded looking at the window, “Today morning I woke up early to clean the window panes.”

Very often out of our survival instincts we tend to blame others for our limitations.

‘I did not want to marry but my family wanted me to‘

‘My husband abused me for years’

‘I don’t get time for myself because I am running around for every body else‘

All these and many more might sound like “there’s nothing I can do” type scenario.

Now just answer this to yourself – 

If this would be the last day of your life, would you still live the same way like you have been living till now?

If you don’t like where you are, move ahead!

The excuses are nothing but the financial, emotional and social chains. Once you have taken the control of your life in your hands would you keep complaining about the same things?

You might think ‘It’s easier said than one’. But have you ever thought of ‘It’s easier done than regret‘ ?

The more you take a pause and reflect, the better understanding you will get.

Hope this helps.

See you in the next post 🙂