If nothing is going right in your life…
If nothing is going right in your life….then what to do?
Have you been in this phase where nothing in your personal and professional life seems to be happening the way you want it to be.
In fact, opposite is happening.
If you have been in that phase or are currently into, then you are exactly in the right place.
Why?
Well, as people know me I have a bug or an inclination to share or write something based out of my experience and not just based on bookish information.
So here I am, can claim that I have done PhD in experience to come out of the situations where nothing seems to work right – personal and professional together!
And after all these years I have not just found out what could be some standard ways to work around but also ‘why’ you seem to fall into similar situations again and again!
If you want to know in depth then keep an open mind and be a listener and observer of your own life.
There were 2 friends who used to stay together in an apartment.
Since they were roommates, the chores were equally divided and rotated between the two.
It’s been few days, one friend has been continuously sleeping and not doing anything particular. She was going through a very low phase. Her friend, the roommate tried to talk to her and cheer her up. Finally understood that she will not understand merely with words.
A couple of days passed, when they woke up in the morning, there was a strong foul smell in the entire apartment.
The friend who was depressed got up and started looking for the cause of that stinky smell.
She saw that the dustbin was not cleared since last few days and the garbage was giving out that smell.
She went inside the room and asked her roommate “Why did you not throw the garbage out, why did you keep it inside for so long? How can we live like this?”
The roommate turned around, looked at her, smiled and said “Exactly! How can you keep any garbage within you for so long that it stinks and hurts? How can you live like this?”
The girl was taken aback and in a snap of the moment, she sat on the floor absolutely stunned and started laughing loudly!
Cleanse or Declutter (C)
Now think in your case and answer these questions to yourself. Take time to answer these, there is no rush.
The only thing is, do not start analyzing, justifying or logically correcting yourself while answering, no one is judging you here.
- Which is the most pressing thought that bothers, upsets or hurt you till date?
- Since how long you have been carrying this inside of you?
- Does the incident or situation still exist in the present or you are carrying the past in your memories only?
- How long do you think you will be able to live like this?
Pattern (P)
Once you have clarity on the above there is something you need to understand very important. If you do not understand this, you will continue having the same exeprience again and again in life without any solution.
- Replay the incidents and see how many times did the same or similar thing happened again and again?
- When it happened the second time or third time or the next time after that, what was your reaction/response. How did you handle it? What did you do?
- Did you do the same or similar thing that you did the first time when it happened?
In short, you need to identify the pattern(s) which caused it to repeat over and over again.
Once you detect the pattern, you move to find the root cause.
Root cause (R)
“If you don’t know whether you are sowing mango seed or neem seed, you will not know what fruit you are going to get”
Once you understand that holding a baggage on your shoulders, on your hands, inside of you will only burden you, drain you and strip you from all the happiness, peace and joy, once you understand that there is a pattern which you are falling into again and again and the loop continues, you will then reach to the point where it will be easier for you to detect the root cause of it!
When you know whether it is a fever or a cancer, only then you can have a proper medication or else it will just be an experiment.
There was a woman who came to me for coaching.
Upon asking her why she wants to get coaching, she said that she was undergoing some health problems and whichever doctor she went to, they recommended her that there is no physical problem, she needs some coach or mentor to guide her in life.
So when we started talking, got to know she was having bouts of stomach ache from time to time including pain in different parts of her body and it was nothing to do with any physicality.
It was all due to the various emotions that she was housing and hoarding and till then she never let those flow freely.
Example – if you cannot cry freely when you want to cry, if you cannot laugh your heart out when you want to laugh, if you cannot shout when you want to, then how would you live your life fully and freely?
Thoughts and emotions are nothing but energy. Now imaging the kind and quality of energy you are accumulating within yourself.
When it does not get the right way out, it starts showing the signs of various ailments – psychological or physical and sometimes both.
In the yogic culture it’s also said that the moment you are living in the past, you can never experience the present.
So in your day-to-day life, it’s important and your responsibility to figure out the CPR . How you want to live your personal and professional lives, it’s completely in your hands. All you need to do is take the first step.
You will soon see that everything that was not going right in your life……..have started changing the course and you are living the best of your life!
If you are not able to figure the CPR yourself, get yourself a coach or a mentor who would help you to do the same in a much faster manner.
If nothing is going right in your life……think of it like the knocks on the door where Universe is asking you to open it and do something different that you have never done before!
Intensify life
Som